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You Know Something's Off

Your relationship used to be easier. More fun. More connected.

But now? You're both busy. Conversations feel transactional. Intimacy is rare.

You're sharing a house, not a life.

You still love each other but the closeness has faded.

And you're not sure how to get it back.

What If You Had a Roadmap?

That's exactly what this book is.

Kickass Husband: Winning at Life, Marriage & Sex

This isn't theory. It's 52 practical, proven chapters built from:

20+ years of marriage (including the crisis that nearly ended it)
Research from Dr. John Gottman's 40 years of relationship science
Real stories, real struggles, real wins

5 minutes to read

Per chapter, designed for busy lives.

One clear action

Per chapter no fluff, no theory dumps.

Lasting impact

Built to compound over weeks and years.

Here's What You'll Learn

Inside this book, you'll discover:

The invisible patterns destroying trust (and how to reverse them)

How to turn toward instead of away when it matters most

Conflict strategies that bring you closer instead of pushing you apart

Intimacy rebuilders that don't feel forced or fake

Why "trying harder" doesn't work and what does instead

The daily habits that build deep trust over time

This isn't about being perfect. It's about being intentional.

Is This Book For You?

That's exactly what this book is.

This book is for you if:

You're a husband or wife who wants to lead with love, not control
You're tired of the same arguments going nowhere
You know your relationship could be better you just don't know how
You're willing to do the work if someone shows you what to do
You're not looking for a quick fix you want real, lasting change

This isn't for you if:

You're looking for a magic bullet (it doesn't exist)
You're not willing to examine your own patterns
You've already given up

If you're still reading, this book is for you.

Written by Someone Who's Been There

Matthew P. Hoffman

Relationship Coach · Master ELI Practitioner

Matthew P. Hoffman is a certified Master Energy Leadership Index Practitioner, Core Energy Relationship Coach, and most importantly a husband who almost lost it all.

After 20 years of marriage, Matthew and his wife Kim found themselves stuck. Committed, yes. But disconnected. Arguing more. Connecting less.

They made a decision to rebuild. And everything changed.

Today, Matthew's relationship with Kim is better than he ever imagined intimate, passionate, trusting, and fun.

This book is the roadmap they followed. It's been used by thousands of couples to transform their own marriages.

Now it's yours Complimentary.

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What Happens When Couples Finally

Change Their Energy

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

I didn't realize how much I'd been checking out until I read Chapter 12. My wife noticed the difference within a week she actually said 'I feel like I have my husband back.' That hit me hard. This book is no joke.

David R.

married 14 years, 2 kids

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We weren't fighting. We weren't even arguing. We were just... existing. I downloaded this thinking it might help a little. Three chapters in, I realized we'd been doing almost everything wrong. It's been two months and our marriage feels completely different.

Michael T.

married 9 years

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My wife bought me this book and left it on my nightstand. I'll be honest I was annoyed. But I read the first chapter just to say I tried. Then I read another. Then another. By chapter 10, I got it. I was the problem or at least, I was part of it. And I could fix it.

James K.

married 18 years, 3 kids

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I'm not big on 'relationship books' but my buddy recommended this, so I gave it a shot. Chapter 23 the one about conflict changed how I handle every argument. We still disagree, but now we don't destroy each other in the process. Worth reading for that chapter alone.

Carlos M.

married 6 years

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

The chapter on intimacy (Chapter 40) was uncomfortable to read. But it was true. My wife and I talked about it that night probably the most honest conversation we'd had in years. Things aren't perfect, but they're getting better. And that's because we finally know what to do.

Brian S.

married 22 years

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

I thought our marriage was fine. We didn't fight much, we got along, we handled life together. But 'fine' isn't the same as 'close.' This book showed me the difference. Now I'm not settling for fine anymore. Neither is she.

Ryan P.

married 11 years, 1 kid

Frequently Asked Questions

1: Is this really Complimentary?

Yes. No credit card. No hidden costs. You'll get the full PDF immediately and receive occasional emails with relationship tips (unsubscribe anytime).

2: Why are you giving this away?

Because I know what it's like to feel stuck in your marriage. My wife Kim and I rebuilt ours using these strategies, and I want other couples to have the same roadmap. If the book helps you and you want to work together later, great. If not, the book is still yours.

3: Will this work if my spouse isn't interested?

Yes. Most strategies focus on what you can control your actions and responses. When you change how you show up, the relationship dynamic shifts. That said, both people engaged always works better. But start with you.

4: How long will this take?

Each chapter is 3–5 pages (5-minute read). You don't have to read all 52 chapters at once. Start with one that fits where you are right now, apply it, then move to the next. Small, consistent actions create big changes.

5: What happens after I download?

You'll receive the PDF immediately. Three days later, I'll check in to see how it's going. You'll also get occasional emails with tips and Complimentary workshop invites. If you want to go deeper with coaching, that option exists but there's zero pressure.

Matthew Hoffman is an IPEC Certified Professional Coach and Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner. He’s the author of Kickass Husband and has helped hundreds of couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy. Backed by proven principles and real experience, his work focuses on practical change that actually lasts.